April
They are independent.
It’s a huge red flag if your loved one can’t stand up for themselves. You need someone who respects the fact that you like to be in control of your own life and that you have a variety of interests that you can’t put aside—someone with their own interests, friends, hobbies, and passions. If they show even the slightest signs of holding back at first, then run. It will only get worse as the relationship progresses. Expect someone who promotes success and personal development just like you. Don’t make the mistake of getting involved with someone who presents themselves in a romantic relationship.
May
They don’t make you feel stable.
Someone who shows any signs of inconsistency—not following through on plans, breaking promises, not calling when they say they will—is someone who will only hurt you. If you fail to feel valued or wanted early on in a relationship, you can save yourself a lot of heartache by asking yourself if this person is right for you. You deserve someone who will give you the stability and security you need in love to feel safe. The right person is someone you can be sure you can count on to build a lasting, healthy partnership with.
June
It’s hard to crack.
You won’t have the deep emotional connection you desire in love with someone who has trouble opening up. The right person is someone who will give you free and harmonious communication—someone who can put their feelings into words and won’t keep you guessing. Don’t waste your energy trying to convince someone to understand. Do not beg anyone to let you in. This type of person will only leave someone with a highly analytical mind like yours feeling anxious. Expect someone who is outspoken and social—someone who matches your communication style.
July
Your efforts are not returned.
July, when your efforts are not returned, run as far as possible to the other side. Someone who can’t match your strength will never make you feel supported. They will become lazy as the relationship progresses. This type of person is someone who cannot give you the emotional security you desire in love—they will never make you feel safe. You deserve to be nurtured, you kind soul. True love will treat you with kindness, love, and respect. Your true love will never leave you hungry for anything.
August
You don’t feel important to them.
A huge red flag that you shouldn’t ignore is someone who isn’t spending enough quality time with you. A tangible sign that you are falling for the wrong person is feeling neglected. Someone who fails to show interest, doesn’t talk about the future, breaks plans, forgets to text back, and doesn’t see the small things is not the right person for you. They make you forget that you are the sun because they do not appreciate your light. You deserve someone who puts you first and always talks about his desire for you. You deserve to be treated like royalty. You deserve all the attention and love you desire.
September
They are a fixer-upper.
He is passionate about acts of service. In the past, you have found the health of your partners. It’s something you’re born with—the need to be generous and helpful to others. Unfortunately, this means that you have become romantically involved with people who are not on your level. Don’t make the same mistake again. The last thing you need is a lover to “fix.” They will leave you feeling drained of all your resources—emotionally, financially, mentally, and physically. What you need is an independent person – someone who is willing to share all the responsibilities of the relationship equally. The right love for you is a secure person who believes in mutual respect. You need someone, like you, who always makes an effort to improve themselves.
October
You don’t feel like you can be your true self around them.
In October, a tangible sign that you’re dating the wrong person is to find yourself bending over backwards to win their approval. This means being wrongly accepted, hiding parts of who you are, saying yes when you mean no, and biting your tongue. As your past has taught you, you tend to be selfish in relationships. Have you ever found yourself with a partner who makes all the decisions and makes you feel afraid to open up about your emotional needs and desires. If you want the real, healthy, and lasting love you want, you can’t be with someone who makes you feel like you need to swallow your needs. The right love will not make you lose yourself.
November
They make you feel like you are “too big.”
You are a powerful being full of complexities. It will take someone as deep as you to truly be able to satisfy you emotionally. The person who makes you feel like you are “too big” is someone who is too small and cannot match your depth. There may be strong physical chemistry between the two of you, but your connection lacks the love you long for. They are not someone who can dive into the deep waters of subconsciousness with you so that you can explore each other fully. This is not someone who will ever make you feel truly safe to ignore you and show him the real you. You deserve someone who will make you feel understood and give you the intimacy you desire. The right person for you will never make you feel ashamed of your intensity. With them, you will be comfortable enough to share your innermost desires and dark secrets.
December
They are afraid to take risks.
A significant other who is afraid to take risks is one that will make you feel stuck, stressed, and trapped. Someone who is afraid to be free spirited and adventurous is not the person to live the happy life of your dreams. This is also not someone who will respect your independence and curiosity. Like Sag, you have a need to explore different places and cultures. You can’t live a normal life, and you can’t stay tied to one place for long. You need someone who is confident and brave—someone who is willing to join you in new, exciting, and adrenaline-pumping experiences. You need someone who is as fearless as you are for the relationship to last.
January
They can’t control themselves.
A straightforward, responsible, and ambitious person like you will never make it work with someone who can’t control himself. Don’t ignore the red flags of an apathetic person who is overindulging and unable to get their priorities straight. If they do not agree with your vision and fail to communicate their wishes for the future, you should not invest. You need someone you can trust to build a strong future together—someone you know can provide and protect. A person who does not understand the concept of self-determination is a person who cannot commit to an equal partnership. You deserve someone who has clear, concise ideas about what they want in life and love.
February
They want to commit immediately.
There is no surer way to know that you are falling for the wrong person than someone who wants to commit too quickly. This means they are pursuing a traditional relationship that your heart doesn’t want (and possibly codependent). For you, a good relationship can be both partners who have their own different lives and pursuits and come together to create something strong. He deviated from convention and social norms. The perfect lover for you is someone who shares your values. Someone who will respect your need for space so you can charge. Someone who will understand that you need your independence to pursue your passions. A person who values humanity.
March
They love the bomb.
You are ruled by dreamy Neptune, which makes you susceptible to big romantic ideas. Ever since you were little, you’ve been dreaming of a fairytale where you find your soulmate. You can’t help but be a hopeless romantic. Unfortunately, your desire for deep spiritual connection has made you prone to dating emotional vampires. They can sense your sensitivity and use your kindness and unique ability to remind others of their beauty. It’s a great way to make them feel that they love you, and they’ll wear you down because of it. Your sensitivity to seeing the good in people makes it difficult for you to distinguish between the fun at the beginning of a healthy relationship and the explosive love at the beginning of an unhealthy one. Sometimes when things sound too good to be true, they are. Take off the rose colored glasses.