Narcissists, or someone who focuses too much on their own needs at the expense of others, can be difficult to deal with. Our Tarot Reader has specific advice for Virgo, Aquarius, and Scorpio on how to deal with the narcissist in their life.
The Four Drawn Cards Represent:
- Card 1: What attracted this person to me? What about you and what patterns attracted a narcissist to you?
- Card 2: Am I still stuck here? Why are you still under the temptation of a narcissist?
- Card 3: How can I be free? What steps can you take to be free?
- Card 4: How can I heal? How can you live and move on?
Virgo
What attracted this person to me?– Justice
Initially, the narcissist you are working with was attracted to you because of your sense of Justice. They may have tried to use that deep sense of justice and fairness to control you. Think about how you can maintain your values and your advocacy while protecting your personal boundaries. Don’t let your work be their weapon.
Am I still stuck here? – The Devil
You’ve found something irresistible, and your narcissist triggers and fulfills some of your deepest desires. They can so intoxicate you that you find it hard to see how much your life is threatened by them, to the point where you don’t even think for a second without them.
How can I be free? – Lord of Pentacles
It will take a high level of emotional maturity and a little preparation. You have the resources at your disposal, but you need to take action. You may need to lean on the advice (or direct help) of a strong male authority figure.
How can I heal? – The Hermit, Reversed
One of the ways narcissists can take control of our lives is by taking us away from our friends. Now is a great time to step out of your comfort zone and instead reach out to the loving and supportive people in your network – they’ve been waiting for you.
Aquarius
What attracted this person to me?– Eight of Pentacles
It’s your dedication to your craft – the time you spend honing your skills and your drive to be the best craftsman you can be – that keeps them coming back. Part of it comes from the admiration they tell you they feel when they love bombing you – but a lot of it is how useful all your skills are to them.
Am I still stuck here? – 9 of Swords
It’s too scary to think about being somewhere else. The fear of what happens when you start preventing this person from having more access to your life than understanding your mind has trouble thinking about anything else. You’re so worried about how scary traveling is, that you’ve forgotten the anxiety-filled world you live in.
How can I be free? – The Hanging Man
You will have to change the way you look at things in order to see your way. Instead of letting your mind get bogged down in common pitfalls and scary ideas, think about what the perfect way out would look like, and consider how to get there. Sometimes it takes a change in scenery – even something as simple as crossing the street – that can spark new ideas.
How can I heal? – The Sun
One of the biggest steps you can take in your healing is to allow yourself to feel good and happy. You don’t have to wait. Keep your mind focused on your optimistic future, and use that perspective to carry on through difficult and difficult times. Your future is worth the work you do for it.
Scorpio
What attracted this person to me? – 9 Cups, Reversed
You are not ashamed to enjoy the pleasures of life – neither should you. Your free spirit and enjoyment of life to the fullest is endearing to people, especially if they believe they can use your desire for freedom against you. Your empathy and emotional openness are very attractive to narcissists. Think of ways you can enjoy emotional and spiritual freedom while maintaining personal boundaries within your relationship.
Am I still stuck here? – Ace of Swords
You are dealing with someone who is extremely intelligent, and he may have used every tool in his toolbox to keep you within his influence. Take a moment and a big step back, and ask for your mental and emotional strength while carefully examining the arguments they use against you to keep you in place.
How can I be free? – 4 of swords, reversed
The period of disappointment and perhaps isolation is over, and you are awake and aware of what is happening – and what feelings and thoughts are about you. Make sure you give yourself enough time to fully recover emotionally and mentally, instead of expecting everything to happen quickly.
How can I heal? – The world
Healing means opening up a new life for yourself – one that doesn’t gradually shift into the state your attacker wants it to be. It will take a lot of work and effort to usher in your new life, but you will. Your resilience will ultimately help you find satisfaction, even happiness.